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My name is Erika. I'm in love with making art, collecting old things & chasing after my two kiddos. This blog is a peek into my happy accidents & plots of total world domination.

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The Help

I just got finished reading the book The Help by Kathryn Stockett and I loved it!  I couldn't put it down and I fell in love with the main narrators.   The book takes place in Mississippi during the 1960's in the time of segregation and Martin Luther King.   There are 3 perspectives and 2 of which are African American house keepers and the other is a Caucasian society girl in her early 20's whom just graduated from college. What I loved about the book is the story telling of each of the narrators and how heart felt the story is- I laughed and cried in parts - which for me is a true sign of a good book.  At the very end of the book- the author whom is from the south tells her own story of her own housekeeper and how much Demetrie meant to her and her family.

I am born and raised in Portland, Oregon- where I am from it's a pretty liberal. I am not from the south and have visited different parts of the south on vacation but what I know of what happened in the south I have mainly read about in books or seen in movies.  I know that in different parts of the United States and the world have gone through lots of racism, segregation, and in-equality that I might not know or even see... and might never completely understand.  My mother is Puerto Rican and my father is Caucasian from a small paper mill town a few hours from Portland.  When I was kid I remember my mother would tell me to check the Caucasian box when ever I filled out paperwork. I didn't realize until later that my mother wanted me to not be judged on my race.  I have also been told a few times in my life that I am not Hispanic enough and other times I have been told that I am just a white girl whom will never understand.  My sisters are quite a bit older than me and some kids from their school weren't allowed to play with them because they were mixed.   I do understand that people come in different shapes and sizes- and I am not going to be someone that judges you based on where you come from- good or bad.  I want to get to know you for you!  

I know people get made fun of for not being skinny enough, not having the right clothes in school (I still regret wearing those hot pink florescent shorts in high school), wearing glasses, having braces, or perhaps not coming from the right side of the tracks.  I guess the whole point of this blog post is that everyone is different and everyone has their own hurdles in life.  I often talk on this blog about finding your own path and your own way in life.. and that life isn't always cookie cutter mold.  We aren't made from cookie cutters? are we? We are all unique creatures... maybe even snowflakes.

I loved the book because it reminded me to simply be nice to one another and to make an effort with people as individuals.

"We are two people.  Not that much separates us.  Not nearly as much as I'd thought"- The Help by Kathryn Stockett.

PS- If you read the book- didn't you just die over the Minnie's Pie chapter? 2 pieces of Minnie Pie for you! lol :)  

42 comments

Katie said...

Hands down one of the greatest books I've read in a long time. It was great to hear about your experiences too :) xo

Bay Park Dream said...

I finished reading this book yesterday and I LOVE LOVED LOVED it. Now I have to get my butt to the movie theater and watch the movie :)

~Tammy

Shelby said...

I just saw this movie yesterday and I LOVED it! I plan on reading the book soon:) Wonderful post!

Andrea@Fancy That! said...

Kindness and compassion will get us past many of those differences. Even when you truly disagree with someone, respect is key. Looking forward to seeing the movie!

Angela said...

I read the book this past Winter and loved it so much I insisted that Aubrey read it as well (and he loved it too!)
The movie is also really good. (It was filmed in a town about an hour from us -where Aubrey's parents live) Not sure if you read a post of mine last October but I went to an 'estate sale' where they were selling all of the props from the movie. I purchased things for my shop (at the time I had not read the book yet) I really wish I kept some things for myself after reading the book :)

Minnie's "terrible awful" cracked me up!

On a different note, Aubrey is a tad Puerto Rican as well - he is also Spanish,Filipino, and Chinese (his Mother is from Hawaii) He always checks the "other" box when he has to fill out a form.

As far as the town we live in, we are the minority with our town being 70% African American.

Anyway, that was an extra long comment but I really love the book :) It is refreshing to "meet" like minded people who don't judge others based on their appearances. I think it would be a much happier world if everyone was like that.

Katie said...

I love this book! I listened to it twice on audio book, and it made me laugh and cry both times.

Shasta Blair said...

I loved it too - well, I loved the movie I saw with my mother and little brother -I can't believe he saw it with us, I'm so proud of him. I think its funny how much we try to fit in and how awful it is that we create societies that leave others out based on our own judgments - which were probably invented out of fear. I have no idea what that would be like - way to go Minnie.

considerthelillies said...

loved the book, loved the movie! I want to be friends with Abileen and Minnie! Couldn't agree with you more about treating all people with respect. I grew up in NYC but have lived in Fla for 25 yrs (mostly NY-ers there) and the past 4 yrs in Alabama. Many horrible things happened in this state during the Civil Rights movement, as bad as in Mississippi. We visited the Civil Rights Museum in Birmingham and was deeply moved by it. Also the Nashville Public library had a floor dedicated to Civil rights and was also awesome! Imagine being so brave as to risk your life standing up for freedom and liberty? I admire all the great heroes from that era!

claire said...

I LOVED that book! Thanks for sharing. :)

Danielle said...

I have yet to read The Help yet. It sounds really good! I'll have to check it out, because I really want to see the movie!

jen said...

i grew up in a VERRRRY small town in Michigan where EVERYBODY was as white as snow. (a lot of polish peeps) I am half polish (my dad's fam 'came over on the boat' & i never spoke with his grandmother b/c she never spoke a word of english!) and on my mom's side we (my 2 sisters, brother, and I) are a little french canadian, english, german, irish, and chippewa indian, to name a few! my mom always told me to check the native american box to help me get scholorships (we were not of the well off group). but despite our low standings and it being a small town, i was able to realize that, as you say, you should just be a good person no matter where you're from or what your roots are.
There's not a lot of diversity where i live now either, but i honestly can feel my blood boil when i hear the stories of hate crimes and such! it's just not right.
oh, and i have not read/seen the help...sounds good, though! :)

Kayla Poole said...

Such a great read and so well-deserved of all the praise and acclaim its received. I recommend this book to everyone.

I saw the film adaption recently and really enjoyed it. (The book was better, but the movie didn't disappoint).

Jessica Wray said...

I have been wanting to read this for a long, long time (before all the movie hype I swear!). School makes reading for pleasure a bit of a challenge. Soon I hope.

Laura Nelson said...

love this post! I have been really wanting to read that book, I need to go buy it :)

Mandy Crandell said...

I haven't read this book, but I love your post. :)

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Kelle Dame said...

I totally agree! I just finished the book and saw the movie last week...I could read it again and again. It was so moving and actually taught me a few important lessons about being a mom. Sometimes I swear I'm Elizabeth and now I'm trying to be more like Aibileen! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the book :)
Kelle
xoxo

Carol Fleisher said...

I haven't read the book but I loved the movie. I am going to read it as soon as I finish the book I'm on. Great post and book reminding us that we are all the same on the inside. Btw, I will never look at chocolate pie the same again! :)

xoxo, dania said...

i was thinking about reading the help soon too! but this definitely shows me that i should! :)

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Brissa said...

i loved the book so much more than the movie. SO much more. i'm obsessed with the way kathryn wrote it. (i can call her kathryn (or kat) because we're totally best friends now). i had to keep reading in order to find out what happened to each character. genius katty girl. genius.

debbiecutieface said...

amen sista! I think I really need to finally read this book...

Monica {bohemian twilight} said...

there's nothing like reading a good book that brings out so many emotions, so i'm glad you had that wonderful experience with it.

i liked it, i thought the white author's audacious attempt at a black voice actually worked. the love story towards the end was awful though, so trite.

it's a funny old world we have created, where we need to find divisions to feel safe. yet safety and peace comes from recognising the Oneness of us all.

Eleanor at Mirror Of My World said...

i loved this book so much its so beautiful i havnt seen the film yet though as its not out in the UK!!! a beautiful post.. sorry to hear about your own experiences with racism... but im sure its all made you stronger.. x

MJ said...

I loved the book too!! I am half Japanese and half white, never felt right checking the caucasian box all the time. When we moved from Japan to Ohio, we encountered some heavy prejudice due to my mother---in church no less!! That was when my dad thought he needed to introduce us to religion. I was 7. Needless to say we never went back.

I love your analogy that we all are snowflakes--perfect.
You'll love the movie too!!
XX OO

aguja said...

I must read this one!

And yes, each of us is unique, which is a special experience. On our blogs, we can enjoy one another's company regardless of where in the world we are situated. You expressed our individuality beautifully.

Peiyinn said...

I haven't read the book before. It seem a great book! I should read this. :)

annelise said...

Ooh! I bought this book a week ago but gave it to my mother to read first. I'm hanging out for her to finish (and til I finish the one I'm reading as well), I've just heard so many fantastic reports.

Amanda said...

I have been wanting to read this for a while now! It has had so many good reviews from friends!

Kyla said...

I have been wanting to read this book for a while, my mom called me right after finishing it and demanded that I read it! I definitely want to read the book before seeing the movie :)

Ashley @ LaLuce said...

i've heard that book and the movie are amazing! i feel like the only one who hasn't seen or read it yet. thanks so much for sharing your story girlie.

xoxo
ashley

San said...

I haven't read the book yet, but I heard many good things about it!

One thing I will never understand is racism.... and I think you're right: everybody has their own hurdles in life.

Breeanna @ a brilliant melody said...

I haven't read the book, but I saw the movie last week. It was really a great story of the kinds of things that went on.

There is so much hatred in this world because people don't understand each other.

brittany said...

i am maybe the only girl who hasn't read this book yet! as a southern girl, i know i need to :) i've heard so many good things!

Huckleberry Creative said...

I saw the movie last week and loved it! This post makes me want to read the book too!

Lyndall said...

I've got this book on my 'to-read' list! From hearing about it, it reminds me a little of 'The Three Miss Margarets', so you should read that if you're in the mood for something similar :)

I can't wait to see the movie too ♥

Jenn @ Live Love Life Now! said...

I read this book for my book club not too long ago and LOVED it! I have been leery about seeing the movie because the trailers made it seem like it was trivializing the book, but I've heard amazing things so I'm looking forward to seeing it!

I thought your post was wonderful about how important it is to treat everyone as individuals and to celebrate all the reasons why we are different from each other...it would be a boring world indeed if we were all like each other!

Jenn xo

stephanie said...

I really liked that book a lot. I found parts of it pretty heartbreaking, for sure, but there was a lot of humor in there as well, which made me happy.

(I always checked the Caucasian box as well, because it never made sense to me why they needed to know if I was part African-American.)

Mindi said...

I just finished reading The Help this past Saturday and then went to see the movie the following day: both were fantastic!
I really enjoyed reading this post. Very heartfelt. :)

Mo Pie, Please said...

It's become one of my all time favorite books, I kid you not. The movie is pretty good but the BOOK, oh the book. It's SO FREAKING GOOD! And I WON'T be saying Mo Pie, Please for Minnie's. No thank you!

punkychewster said...

ooh time to pick that book up at the library!

kristina@beancakes ★ said...

thanks for sharing you story. i too am of mixed descent, mainly 1/2 japanese and 1/2 caucasian ~ so i know exactly how you feel and what you are talking about. i really want to read this book now and see the movie!! oh, and i live in portland now, i just love it here!!
xx ~ kristina

Cindy said...

the surfer laird hamilton is blue-eyed with blond hair. he grew up in hawaii and was picked on because he looked different. i guess, to a certain extent, it's all relative? i enjoyed learning more about you and look forward to seeing the movie.

The Veda House said...

Hi lady. Thanks for stopping by my blog recently. I love to see new faces around. I just recently started reading this book and have heard so many great things. Thanks for the review and insights.

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